Mia Doucet

The whole seedy Jeffrey Epstein sexual abuse scandal gives rise to so many questions.

The ones that hold the most fascination for me are those concerning power and authority.

Does childhood train us to like being admired by men? To want to please people in authority? To respect those who have power over us? Why are we afraid of the power of wealthy people and those who hold positions of authority?

Does it make sense to give away our power to men? (In the case of Epstein’s victims, to older men?) Does it make sense to allow anyone power over our mind? Over our body?

As I wrote earlier, what we don’t realize is that other people have only as much power as we give them. I think we’re afraid of power in general. We’re even afraid of our own power.

To quote the enduring (and quoted ad nauseum) words of Marianne Williamson:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”
~ Marianne Williamson

I think that, at heart, handing over our power to another stems from the desire to be loved and accepted. This has its roots in childhood.

It’s time to come into our true power as women.

This may sound heretical to some. But my advice is to love ourselves first and above all others. Then there will be no need to give away our power in order to feel loved and accepted.

Let’s trust our own instincts. Stop seeking validation from others to justify how we feel.

Drop the desire to please and stop caring about male opinion.

Your thoughts? Do you agree? Disagree? Have anything to add? Anything to dispute? I’d love to hear from you.